Inside the Book · Beginning

When You Need Me

The full Prologue from For Those Who Come After Us — A Life in Lessons.

Someday you may face a decision and wish we could sit down together and talk about it.

Maybe it will be about work.

Or family.

Money.

Faith.

A mistake.

A risk worth taking.

Or a road you are not sure you should follow.

You may wonder what I would say.

Someday I will not be there to answer.

That is why I wrote this book.

I cannot know what questions life will ask you. I cannot leave you an answer for every situation.

What I can leave you is some of the thinking that helped me find my way.

The stories in these pages come from choices I made, mistakes I paid for, people who taught me, and questions I am still asking.

Some lessons came from my parents. Some came from work and failure. Some came from Chrystina and our children. And some took decades before I understood what they meant.

I do not expect you to live my life.

I do not even expect you to agree with everything in this book.

I hope you understand why I came to believe what I believe.

Use what helps.

Question what does not.

Improve what you can.

Life will give you circumstances I never faced and choices I could not have anticipated.

You will have to decide for yourself.

That is exactly as it should be.

But before you can understand why I see the world the way I do, you need to understand what came before me.

None of us begins with ourselves.

We begin with what other people carried for us.

And that is where this story begins.

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Continue the journey.

The Prologue opens the door. The chapters that follow trace the people, choices, failures, ideas, and questions that shaped the thinking behind it.