Inside the Book · Beginning

When You Need Me

The full Prologue from For Those Who Come After Us — A Life in Lessons.

Someday you may face a decision and wish we could sit down together and talk about it.

Maybe it will be about work.

Or family.

Money.

Faith.

A mistake.

A risk worth taking.

Or a road you are not sure you should follow.

You may wonder what I would say.

Someday I will not be there to answer.

That is why I wrote this book.

I cannot know what questions life will ask you. I cannot leave you an answer for every situation.

What I can leave you is some of the thinking that helped me find my way.

The stories in these pages come from choices I made, mistakes I paid for, people who taught me, and questions I am still asking.

Some lessons came from my parents. Some came from work and failure. Some came from Chrystina and our children. And some took decades before I understood what they meant.

I do not expect you to live my life.

I do not even expect you to agree with everything in this book.

I hope you understand why I came to believe what I believe.

Use what helps.

Question what does not.

Improve what you can.

Life will give you circumstances I never faced and choices I could not have anticipated.

You will have to decide for yourself.

That is exactly as it should be.

But before you can understand why I see the world the way I do, you need to understand what came before me.

None of us begins with ourselves.

We begin with what other people carried for us.

And that is where this story begins.

Continue the journey.

The Prologue opens the door. The chapters that follow trace the people, choices, failures, ideas, and questions that shaped the thinking behind it.